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Just wondering..
I wish to hear from you guys, your thoughts and more importantly your opinions.
What do you think of inter-country relationships?
For example: Malaysian & Singaporean couples
Is it feasible? Realistic? Difficult?
I know of a few friends who have experienced this before and some worked whilst others.. not so fortunate.
To be honest, I've always shook my head against such "cross country" relationships because I feel it'll be immensely difficult to maintain and more importantly, be with one another.
But anyway, I'd love to hear from what you guys think~
Cheers~
`keLvin
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It will work, with mutual trust and understanding. Acknowledgement of personal space will enhance the relationship further. I've seen examples, Singapore + Little Rock, Arkansas (USA). They are so loving despite the distance.
However, it also depends on the surrounding circumstances. Peer pressure, family as well as your career demands. It's not easy, but it is not impossible.
Everything can work, just depends on whether you want it to work or not. That's what I opinionated.. :)
Yea I know where you're heading.
Actually, I've always felt that international relationships are difficult to support.. and I am even against it..
.. or at least I used to be?
Its really different when you are experiencing it yourself. Its amazing how such strong emotions for a person can quickly change one's personal opinions and views..
Well.. at least.. it did to me. =\
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x.keLvin.x, at 12:03 AM
I think it is going to really hurts and it is so difficult to think about. And frankly speaking, that does not even begin to describe the pain I go through sometimes trying to think about what is going to happen in the future.
Well yeah, I am with him now, but trying to imagine what it would be like in the future...
One thing is for sure, you have to be ready to compromise (because I am not really). I do not mind doing the long distance thing (ie, him in the US and myself in Sg), but I doubt he can do it. He became all depressed when we were separated only for a month (and we even webcammed every day).
Now he wants me to do all that I can to remain in the US to be with him, but I have grown up thinking that I would want to go back to be with my parents to take care of them. He told me he "won't mind" moving to Asia for me if he could find a job, but really, he is one of those person who cannot stand having to work for more than 9 to 5. And he is an accountant... and all accountants in Sg rarely do 8 hours daily.
So yeah, it is hard. Because if I decided to stay here. My best option is to get a job here and that would mean another 3 years of not going back to Sg... for him.
Yes, of course I love him but truth be told, I am just not ready to sacrifice so much of myself for him.
So, before you are in any cross country relationship, just think of the long-term consequences first if you were truly serious about her. Ask yourself if you would be willing to compromise a lot in your life to make it work with her? Even if you decided on long distance relationship... that distance IS a compromise.
My advice to you is to talk with her and know what her own opinions are (when you both are getting really serious). And of course, as always, best of luck to you =)
PS: Sorry to be the negative nancy here... but it is just my personal experience first hand.
I get what you mean Lia~
About the need to compromise and be able to withstand the distance..
She's from Malaysia.. not exactly US - Sg far. But still a distance nonetheless. I just know that I want to give it a shot because it feels so real to me this time..
Like you said, alot of compromise has to be made.. And if I may be honest.. I would not move to Malaysia for the life of me. It is something I cannot do. I would never be able to leave my family and friends and not to mention, my country as well.
But I am sure she would consider moving to Singapore (as she has worked here before and I've heard her talk abit of it).
But now my problem is trying to get her.. all the while thinking of the future consequences that would arise.
Hmm.. your bf does seem rather "clingy" doesn't he? =X
I know alot of gals don't like obsessively "clingy" guys.. it just shows insecurity and weakness (no offence to him in any way)
But then again, it also shows how much he loves you.
And don't worry.. you're not being some "negative nancy" here. I appreciate your thoughts on this.. it really helps me think sometimes.
P.S: You're coming back to Singapore for good in the future? When will that be? We can meet up at last! LOL
By x.keLvin.x, at 5:55 PM
